The familiar approach




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Act like you already know her

One of the easiest and most effective ways is to start talking to them, like you've already know them. Just start in the middle, like you'd go on from where you left off the last time you two met or just start with anything new, just as if you were talking to an old acquaintance of yours:) Skip all opening-lines (99.9% of them suck and girls hate them) and introductions (she's gonna be offering her name and phone number soon anyway, you just need to construct the opportunity for her:). It is very important not to convey the image that you are hitting on her, at least not while initiating contact. Being friendly (and not drooling over her), being confident (and not sweating, trembling and stuttering) and being humorous go a long way in achieving this.

Fool her into thinking that she knows you

Kevin Kupal, mindlist: "Look surprised, then look away for a while, then look at her then look surprised again. She may open a discussion. If not, open yourself by saying something like :

"You look strangely familiar. I swear I must have seen you somewhere. (pause). I can't remember yet. Let's switch it around. Do you HAVE THAT FEELING that you STRONGLY RECOGNIZE ME. Do you HAVE THAT FEELING NOW that I"M UNCANNILLY FAMILIAR.(?)"

Her (most likely response, if the principle works): "... yeah... I must have seen you from somewhere"

You: "You want to sit down for a cup of coffee while we figure out why we feel so familiar with each other ?" (presup hehehe)."

Update. The High 5 modification

Craig, ASF: "I give girls high fives all the time, usually when they are walking in the opposite direction as me and we cross paths in a club. Then, the next time I see them I say, "I remember you!" and then we are instant friends! I will also just go up to a girl and put my hand up in high 5 postition, then when they slap it I'll just start talking and go into my routine."


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