The Door pattern
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This one is the "bad boy" of all patterns. Anyone who has studied SS and NLP and has come into contact with the Door pattern, has found it to be evil and cruel, playing on the fears and deep insecurities of women. To give you an idea of how bad this pattern actually is - even Ross Jeffries himself has denounced this pattern and says that he does NOT encourage anyone to use it.
So... as always with stuff like that... "for educational purpose only":)
The Door pattern originated by Alex Domnikov. Mindlist:
"Whereas most patterns are about getting a woman into
bed, The Door is aimed at controlling her after
you've started sleeping with her. Other patterns that
you've used on her have anchored immense pleasure to
you. The Door creates an anchor for the loss of that
pleasure.
You've already had intercourse with the girl. The
ideal setting for the power of the door, which is a
power and control pattern, is right after you've had
intercourse and you're in bed with the girl, and at
this time hopefully you've set up the fact that
you're also the man of her dreams and fulfil her
emotional needs. You're fooling around in bed, you've
already had a great time, and you go, "sweetheart,
what's that over there?" and you point towards the
door. And she'll say, "well you know, that's a door,
silly." And you say, "yeah, you know.. I'm a real
positive person, but.. I mean, can you imagine.. I
mean, you don't know what can happen from day to day,
when you think about it in your mind. I mean, what
would happen if I walked out that door and the door
closed and as the door closed, it slammed shut, and
no matter what you did, you could not open the door
and you knew that you would never be able to look
into my eyes again and you'd never be able to hear my
voice again and you'd never be able to feel my touch
again." Ok, right here is where she starts going, "I
don't like this door business at all." And at this
time you just reassure her.. "ok, alright sweetheart,
you're right. You really shouldn't think about the
door and you really don't have to think about the
door." So you go back to playing around with her some
more. Have some more fun with her, bring her to
another orgasm or whatever and say, "you know, a
terrible thing happened the other day. My friend was
hit by a truck. I mean, it was awful, by the time
they got him to hospital he was dead. I can't believe
it, you know? It's almost as if, it would be a
horrible thing you know when you think about.."
(point towards the door) "..that no matter even if
you were to get that door opened and you were to
search, that you could never find me again.." Then
she starts freaking out. You calibrate more on that
part of, "you will never be able to see me again,
you'll never be able to hear my voice again."
"You'll never be able.. all that fun we had together,
all those great times we had together, walking along
the beach, hand in hand in the moonlight, we would
never be able to do those things again and even if
you were to open that door, you would search and you
could never find." And she's at the point where she's
saying, "no no I hate this door. Let's stop this door
now, are you trying to upset me?" And you say, "oh,
I'm sorry sweetheart, I'm just saying these are just
things that are popping into my mind, ok?" So play
around some more. Get her good and nice and hot
again, fool around, have a good time with her, joke,
and then then get back into the door and say, "you
know, God, still you know, about life's tragedies.. I
mean, I just keep on thinking how.." At this point
you can already see that this is starting to make her
feel uncomfortable. You want to create that sense in
her that you can walk out and she'll feel terrible
for the rest of here life. You want to anchor that
response. I'll get up and she'll say, "well what are
you doing?" And I'll say, "I'm going to the
bathroom." I go up to the bedroom door and slam it.
That right there will freak her out. Then I'll open
the door and say, "oh, I'm sorry. You know, I'm
sorry, I'm just playing with this door again. You
know, you really shouldn't think about this door now
and you really don't want to think about this door
now."
Having anchored that sense of loss and pain to the
door, you can trigger it whenever needed. Whatever
negative behavior may come up that you want to stop,
the first time you just get up and slam the door.
Whether you walk out the door depends on the level of
bullshit. On later occasions you can just indicate
tbe door in some manner. The example Alex gives: If
he's talking on the phone and getting any crap from
her, and he knows the relation of where the door is
to her desk, he says, "sweetheart, could you please
turn right and take a look at what's over there.."
and that was the end of the bullshit."
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